Relationships: How Many Is Too Many??
Judging from reports, the dating pool nowadays is shallow. Trying to find someone to mix and mingle with is almost as difficult as finding the perfect pair of shoes to wear. There are so many things to take into consideration: looks, smarts, finances, sexual partners, amongst other things. I listed them in no particular order but I mean, which of those things are most important to you?
Along with asking people their name, age and sexual preference, you have to also ask another important question, “What’s your sex number?” A “sex number”? What’s that you ask? A sex number is the number of sexual partners you’ve had in a lifetime. Now I gotta tell you folks, this question could make or break the next person you meet.
A sex number is important. Given the disease rate out here, it is important that you know a partner’s history. To check your perspective partners lifestyle, a sex number is almost as important as a credit score. You know that if a partner has had more partners than their chronological age, they are not settle down material. Chances are they want to settle down but the tendency to continue their sex rampage is alive and well. Most women don’t want to marry a peen that has been inside of scores of women… Right? I’ve seen pictures of dirty, infected peens and it is not pretty. Imagine the embarrassment of walking down the street with your partner and at least 5 of the people you walk by, they’ve slept with. And fellas, would you be willing to wife the woman that has had more than 40 sex partners? Honestly? Men want to have relations with women everywhere but their wife has to be untouched. And it’s the fellas who have high sex numbers that expect to wife someone who hasn’t slept with a lot of people. Didn’t you run through a few communities? And who’s to say that these were all protected experiences. Given the fact that some diseases take time to manifest, you could be sleeping with a diseased person and not even know it. People don’t “look” diseased or clean. They need to be tested.
So what happens when someone is asked “How many..?” and it is too many? Well, according to the American Census Bureau, the average sex partners for women is 3, and the average for men is 5. Really?? Somebody is lying!! And that actually is how people get around discussing their promiscuity. The solution for some of the people I spoke to, a lot of them lie. Not the men so much but the women… Lie through their teeth. Do women lie because men can’t handle the truth? Could a man be comfortable knowing that his partner slept with many men? Are women okay with the idea that their perspective partner had many women? Could that be considered judging a person based on their past? I mean of they were single and wanted to walk around screwing everything that moved, does that make them a bad person? Or just a nasty person? There was one young lady who was 18 years old and said she had roughly 20 sexual partners, but she lies and says 15… 15? Somebody needs to talk to her and tell her that 15 at 18 is too gotdamn many.
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I mean is it really necessary to lie? Does it depend on how you feel about the person you are meeting? And if you do lie, do you rectify the situation after you’ve been with the person for awhile? What happens if you lie but forget the umber you used in the lie? All these are things that I wondered about while I listened to some of these people talk about lying about their number of sex partners. I would want to know the truth. But that’s just me. Let me decide if I think that number is too many. And in worse case scenarios, don’t even ask. You could be in love with someone and then when you find out how many people they slept with, your whole image of them is out the window. Honesty is still the best policy. Relationships can’t be built on lies, even ones about sex partners. If you could lie about that, you could lie about anything. When and if I was ever asked, I always told the truth. I’m proud of my number. If you ask someone and the number is not to your liking then you could get to steppin’… Move along. Word.
In theory your sex number should make a difference, however the sex partner question is a joke! Whose telling the TRUTH?? We can look at ratios and percentages, but in the seriousness of the consequence…does that matter?How many is too many,you ask… What if that only ONE person you have on your list was infected and now your a carrier for number TWO???What if you had 135 partners and test clean?
The only answer I see is to wrap it up and get tested together, Keep it SAFE………Then there is the question of the down lows. Where do they fit into the equation, because they’re definitely NOT TELLING… THAT sex number!!
No one is truly safe!!…or are they????